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Getting older is, as J.J. Hubal puts it, “a very big deal,” and pretending otherwise doesn’t do anyone any favors. What does help? A little honesty, a healthy dose of curiosity and, perhaps most powerfully, a well-timed cartoon. 

Bestselling author, cartoonist and former special education teacher J.J. Hubal joined Varsity’s weekly Roundtable recently to share the ideas behind her book, Goodbye Old, Hello Bold, a work that challenges long-held stereotypes and invites people to embrace aging with confidence and humor. Below are a few Fresh Perspectives from her discussion.

HUMOR OPENS THE DOOR TO HARD CONVERSATIONS

J.J. demonstrated how humor and cartoons can make sensitive topics like aging, loss, health and change feel more approachable. Participants were reminded that laughter can create space for honest reflection and meaningful conversations.

AGING REQUIRES LETTING GO BEFORE MOVING FORWARD

One of J.J.’s central themes was that aging well isn’t about denying reality. It’s about acknowledging what’s changed, letting go of what no longer fits and creating room for new possibilities, experiences and relationships.

COMMUNITY OFTEN OUTWEIGHS CONVENIENCE

Discussions about downsizing, aging in place and senior living reinforced that people aren’t just choosing a place to live. They’re choosing connection, purpose and belonging. For many older adults, the real value of a move is gaining community rather than simply reducing maintenance.

THE BIGGEST AGING DECISIONS START WITH CONVERSATION

Whether discussing downsizing, future living arrangements or changing family dynamics, participants were reminded that proactive conversations are far better than waiting for a crisis. Open communication creates more choices and better outcomes.

AGING ISN’T ONE-SIZE-FITS-ALL

Health, finances and relationships affect everyone differently. J.J. encouraged attendees to focus less on aging stereotypes and more on helping people navigate their own unique circumstances with honesty, flexibility and self-awareness.

PEOPLE CONNECT WITH AUTHENTICITY

The strongest themes in J.J.’s work came from real-life experiences, frustrations and observations. Participants were reminded that the most relatable stories, messages and marketing often come from genuine human experiences rather than polished talking points.

Music can do more than entertain, it can create connection, reflection and even healing. In a recent episode of Varsity’s Roundtable Talk, we talked with Stuart Malina, longtime Music Director and Conductor of the Harrisburg Symphony Orchestra and Tony Award-winning orchestrator.

In the conversation, Stuart discussed why music often resonates more deeply as we age, how live concerts create powerful shared experiences and the surprising ways music can unlock memory and emotion. Stuart also reflects on working with Billy Joel and Twyla Tharp on Broadway’s Moving Out and shares advice about creativity, confidence and defining success for yourself.

Check out the full episode here.

WHAT HAVE YOU OBSERVED ABOUT HOW PEOPLE’S RELATIONSHIP WITH MUSIC CHANGES AS THEY AGE?

The core audience of classical music is older. I would say probably averaging somewhere in the upper 60s to lower 70s. I don’t think this is a coincidence. I think that there is something about classical music that resonates perhaps a little bit more intensely with older audiences. Music speaks to everybody, but as you get older, different kinds of music will bring responses. 

I speak to a lot of people who say the same thing: I grew up and I loved the pop music of my time, and of course I still do. But now I’m beginning to understand this music a little bit better and it speaks to my heart.

WHY DO YOU THINK MUSIC BECOMES MORE MEANINGFUL LATER IN LIFE?

If there is wisdom, it’s just kind of being able to look at life with a little bit more grand perspective, and I do think that might be part of why there’s a response to not just music, but any kind of great art as you get older. 

I also think that part of it is patience. As you get older, I do think there is a greater ability to just sit back and enjoy a journey. So much of classical music is just allowing yourself to enjoy the progression of an emotional arc or the progression of a beautiful long phrase. And I do think that comes a little bit more easily when you’re older. But the last thing might even be just a practical issue, that older people just have a little bit more time.

RESEARCH HAS SHOWN THAT MUSIC CAN SUPPORT MEMORY, MOOD, AND BRAIN HEALTH. DOES THAT ALIGN WITH WHAT YOU’VE SEEN PERSONALLY?

I actually think that music is unbelievably powerful. I do think that music speaks to parts of the brain that you can’t reach in other ways. We have a great friend of the orchestra who brought her husband to concerts. He was suffering from very severe Alzheimer’s, to the degree where he really couldn’t remember anything and he didn’t remember who people were. 

She brought him to the concerts because when he walked in the concert hall, suddenly he was who he was before. He was recognizing members of the orchestra. And she said that for that one hour and 45 minutes or two hours, he was himself again. And then they would leave and it would be back to his old world. So something’s going on there. 

Wellness in senior living is not a checklist. It’s personal, it changes over time and it’s shaped as much by connection and purpose as it is by health metrics.

That theme drove a recent conversation on Varsity’s weekly Roundtable with Kyle Robinson of Wellzesta, an all-in-one engagement platform that connects residents, staff and families while supporting wellness and day-to-day communication. Kyle shared practical ways to think about engagement as part of both the resident experience and the prospect journey. Below are a few Fresh Perspectives from her discussion.

WELLNESS ISN’T A PROGRAM — IT’S A PERSONALIZED JOURNEY

Wellness showed up repeatedly as something deeply individual and constantly evolving. It’s not about checking boxes or showcasing amenities, but about understanding what matters to each person and meeting them there, across physical, social, emotional and environmental dimensions.

SOCIAL CONNECTION MAY BE THE MOST UNDERRATED HEALTH DRIVER IN SENIOR LIVING

While physical wellness often gets top billing, socialization emerged as a cornerstone of longevity, happiness and cognitive health. The contrast between Babo and Mimi made it clear: connection, purpose and engagement can radically shape how people age, even in similar environments.

DATA ONLY MATTERS IF IT TELLS A HUMAN STORY

Metrics on their own aren’t compelling. What makes them powerful is how they help communities explain what life actually feels like, what’s working and where residents are thriving or drifting. Used well, data becomes a storytelling tool for residents, prospects and staff alike.

TECHNOLOGY WORKS BEST WHEN IT AMPLIFIES AUTONOMY, NOT CONTROL

The most effective tech wasn’t framed as something staff “manage,” but something residents use to explore, connect and lead their own experiences. From wellness scoring to AI-powered interest matching, the shift is toward enabling choice and self-direction.

CARE TRANSITIONS CAN QUIETLY ERODE IDENTITY IF CONNECTION ISN’T PROTECTED

Mimi’s move to a higher level of care revealed a subtle but important truth: even when physical needs are met, changes in routine, environment and social engagement can affect how someone feels about themselves. Supporting identity and connection during transitions is just as critical as clinical care.

STAFF WELLNESS AND RESIDENT WELLNESS ARE DEEPLY LINKED

The conversation widened to include staff burnout and personal well-being, acknowledging how much caregivers and teams give every day. Supporting wellness isn’t just about residents, it’s about sustaining the people who make community life possible.

Varsity’s Roundtable is a weekly virtual gathering of senior living marketers and leaders from across the nation. For updates about future weekly Roundtable gatherings, submit your name and email address here. 

QUOTES

“We have been fed a steady diet of inaccurate information about growing older, and that information is that it’s all decline. And the truth is in the literature that there are many things that get better as you get older. We don’t care as much what people think about us, we appreciate our connections more, and we have greater potential for problem solving.” (Dr. Burnight)

“I’ve just been amazed by, like, who would think that a book on aging would become a New York Times bestseller? I mean, that’s where people are in recognizing these 100-year lives and recognizing that the status quo is not sufficient.” (Dr. Burnight)

“There were times where I had my head down on the keyboard crying because it was so hard because I wanted to bring in all the research, but I also wanted to make it really readable. And so I just kept thinking, simplify, simplify.” (Dr. Burnight)

“When I realized that the American Psychological Association defines joy as well-being and satisfaction, it made me realize that joy isn’t this like happy, happy, you know. It’s the opposite of toxic positivity.” (Dr. Burnight)

“What they said is that happiness is often circumstantially dependent, whereas joy can exist even in challenge because it’s an inside out phenomena. And that was an ah-ha moment for me.” (Dr. Burnight)

“I don’t know any older adults who haven’t had significant challenges. That is the nature of being a human. And we’re going to have those challenges. So it isn’t that we’re going to control for everything. That’s impossible. It’s that we’re going to find a way to have joy anyway.” (Dr. Burnight)

“What the research shows us is that genetics predicts between 13% and 25% of our aging experience. So the vast majority is up to us.” (Dr. Burnight)

“One utterly suffered, and it was such a rough road, and it was really hard to be around her. And then the other one had found this ability to be content, and we couldn’t get enough of her… we watched that it is possible to walk with grief and joy.” (Dr. Burnight)

NOTES

Dr. Kerry Burnight is a nationally recognized gerontologist, author, speaker and advocate with more than three decades of experience working with older adults and families. Her work focuses on aging, joy, well-being, elder abuse prevention and redefining longevity beyond decline.

Dr. Burnight is the author of JoySpan, a New York Times bestseller that reframes aging by emphasizing joy, adaptability and meaning alongside lifespan and healthspan. She is also a co-founder of the Elder Abuse Forensic Center and a leader in research-driven aging policy and practice.

Joy is not fleeting happiness but a deeper sense of well-being that can coexist with hardship and challenge.

Genetics play a smaller role in aging outcomes than commonly believed, with most of the aging experience shaped by behavior and mindset.

Joy and well-being can be intentionally built through daily practices, much like physical health.

People who thrive in long lives consistently invest in growth, connection, adaptability and contribution.

Aging is not solely defined by decline; many cognitive, emotional and relational strengths improve with age.

Gratitude and attention shape perception, influencing both mood and social connection.

Loneliness is best addressed through proactive effort, including initiating relationships rather than waiting to be invited.

Society, policy and senior living environments must move away from infantilizing older adults and toward dignity, choice and purpose.

Longevity isn’t just measured in years, it’s measured in independence. The emerging science of aging shows that emotional health, resilience, and social connection are just as powerful as blood pressure or cholesterol when it comes to predicting how long and how well we live. 

These “soft measures” may sound intangible, but they can reveal early signs of decline long before traditional medical tests do. giving individuals and communities the chance to intervene early and preserve independence. 

That insight was at the center of Dr. Kathleen Potempa’s conversation on Varsity’s weekly Roundtable. As founder of HealthyLifetime, Dr. Potempa and her team are redefining how we measure and maintain wellness in later life through tools like the Independent Living Index, which tracks the factors that most influence long-term vitality.  Below are a few Fresh Perspectives from her discussion.

SOFT MEASURES REVEAL HIDDEN RISK 

Self-reported well-being factors like purpose, resilience, and life satisfaction can uncover “insidious risks” that traditional medical tests miss—allowing communities to intervene before decline begins.

WELL-BEING IS THE NEW LONGEVITY STRATEGY 

Decades of research show that emotional health, social connection, and resilience aren’t just feel-good factors, they’re strong predictors of longevity, independence, and reduced mortality.

RESILIENCE BUILDS REAL STRENGTH 

Mental and emotional resilience create both psychological and physical benefits, helping older adults think clearly, make healthier choices, and stay “heartier” over time.

CONNECTION IS MEDICINE 

Social engagement literally strengthens the body. Meaningful relationships help regulate stress, boost immunity, and protect against decline, proving that community is a biological need, not a luxury.

TRACKING WELL-BEING DRIVES ACTION 

HealthyLifetime’s Independent Living Index turns soft data into actionable insight. It helps communities measure risk, track improvement, and show tangible outcomes that resonate with residents and families.

REVENTION IS THE FUTURE OF AGING 

The shift from treating illness to preventing decline is underway. HealthyLifetime’s expansion as an independent company signals a new era where aging well means living longer, healthier, and more independently.

Varsity’s Roundtable is a weekly virtual gathering of senior living marketers and leaders from across the nation. For updates about future weekly Roundtable gatherings, submit your name and email address here.