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Aging rarely happens the way people expect. It arrives gradually, bringing changes in identity, relationships and perspective that can feel difficult to navigate. In a recent episode of Varsity’s Roundtable Talk, Derek sat down with bestselling author, cartoonist and former special education teacher J.J. Hubal, whose book Goodbye Old, Hello Bold uses humor and visual storytelling to explore the realities of growing older with more curiosity and courage.

In their conversation, Derek and J.J. discussed why aging often creates anxiety, how humor can make difficult topics more approachable and why reinvention becomes increasingly important later in life. J.J. also shared personal reflections on loneliness, friendship, creativity and the importance of continuing to step outside your comfort zone as you age.

Check out the full episode here.

WHAT DOES “HELLO BOLD” MEAN TO YOU?

I started the whole project at about 72 years old and I had the old part down, but I definitely didn’t have the bold part. So I’m the perfect author. I had zero bold. To me, bold is different things for different people. Sometimes it’s something very small. Sometimes it’s something very large. Most of my time was spent wallowing in self-pity that life hadn’t worked out for this reason, that reason. The whole project was really a search for bold. I didn’t start it even as a book. I certainly didn’t start it with a whole pile of bold ideas. I had absolutely nothing.

WHY DO SO MANY PEOPLE APPROACH AGING WITH ANXIETY INSTEAD OF CURIOSITY?

I think people get stuck in the negative, what didn’t go right. We also fill our minds with things that aren’t realistic anymore. There’s nobody blazing the trail for us. We’re pioneers. There are 10,000 boomers turning 65 every day and millions turning 80. You’re overwhelmed with loss and change. All loss causes change and even change you choose ends up with losses. You just have fewer people. If you’ve lost health, money, people or security, all of those things keep us stuck for a while.

WHY IS HUMOR SUCH A POWERFUL TOOL WHEN TALKING ABOUT AGING?

Humor is a powerful tool for talking about anything sensitive or difficult. Adding a cartoon takes you out of a live person saying something. It’s just a drawing. Humor makes the medicine go down easier. Reality can be a tough thing to deal with. The old humor acts like a spoonful of sugar. It lets people face difficult truths without feeling attacked or overwhelmed.

HOW IS THE CULTURAL NARRATIVE AROUND AGING CHANGING?

It’s definitely changing and it’s most evident in media and advertising. Years ago, if somebody was even 50, it was treated like they were almost ready for the grave. Now it’s becoming more natural. We’re investing less in clinging tooth and nail to old images and more in what’s next. People are experimenting more. We’ve opened up both ends of the spectrum. I see younger generations being less rigid too. There’s more freedom now to age honestly.

WHAT ARE SOME OF THE BIGGEST FEARS PEOPLE HAVE ABOUT AGING?

One of the most popular cartoons I’ve done is just a sign in a yard that says, ‘Estate Sale: Everything My Children Told Me They Don’t Want to Inherit.’ People react to it because the stuff we hang onto has emotional power. It represents pieces of our lives, our history, our memories. It’s not just about cleaning out a room. It’s about realizing the past isn’t coming back. I had to stop looking backward and understand that I was stopping any positive input into my life.

Aging has long been framed as a slow narrowing of possibilities, but that perspective is beginning to shift. In a recent episode of Varsity’s podcast, Roundtable Talk, Derek sat down with Colin Milner, founder and CEO of the International Council on Active Aging, whose work has helped redefine aging as a dynamic, engaged and opportunity-filled stage of life.

In their conversation, Derek and Colin explored why changing perceptions around aging takes time, the growing importance of closing the gap between lifespan and health span and how simple behaviors like staying active and curious can have outsized impact. Check out the full episode here.

WHY HAS IT BEEN SO HARD TO CHANGE THE NARRATIVE THAT AGING EQUALS DECLINE?

It really comes down to time. It was a massive wave going in one direction, and changing that takes decades. I was told it would take 30 years to make an impact, and now, 25 years in, wellness is everywhere. Things take time to change, and many people don’t stay in it long enough to see the results.

WHAT DOES “ACTIVE AGING” MEAN TODAY?

The definition hasn’t changed. It’s about being engaged in life, in all areas of life. What has changed is the implementation. If you’re engaged, the ripple effect begins to happen. You become more socially connected, more physically active and more involved overall. Engagement drives everything.

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN PEOPLE START SEEING AGING AS GROWTH INSTEAD OF DECLINE?

Everything changes. You start looking at possibilities instead of limitations. The world opens up to you instead of closing off. When systems are in place to support that mindset, people have the opportunity to grow rather than feel like things are being taken away from them.

WHY SHOULD WE FOCUS MORE ON HEALTH SPAN, NOT JUST LIFESPAN?

If we don’t shrink the health span gap, all we’re doing is extending life and extending years of ill health. Right now, that gap is about 12.4 years. People want to live longer, but not in poor health. We have to close that gap or longevity doesn’t really mean what we think it does.

WHAT ARE MARKETERS GETTING WRONG ABOUT OLDER ADULTS?

Ageism. Most marketers are younger and not excited about creating for an older audience. But two older adults control 70 to 75% of disposable income. It’s a massive opportunity that’s still being overlooked because of outdated assumptions about what aging looks like.